It becomes clearer with each passing day, if you seriously want one thing you have to give up something else. Even if it’s something you take for granted or don’t realize you have in the first place. Wanna get fit? Giving up computer time/drawing time/gaming time, oh and all those garbage foods you eat, or the vast preponderance of them. Want to be an artist? Giving up sleep and leisure hours. Want to do conventions? Gonna give up money and time spent on leisure and hobbies you took for granted. Want a relationship? A healthy one? Gotta give up the safety of solitude, and some of the time and energy you have left to doing your part in that relationship.
There’s a truism you might know: If you want something you’ve never had before, you have to do something you’ve never done. Well duh, obviously. Everyone gets that when they hear it. It’s self-explanatory. But what no one tells you is (because maybe they don’t think about it), if you want to do something you’ve never done to get something you’ve never had, you have to give up something you ARE doing, something you DO have. It could be anything. A pastime, a bad habit, time with friends and family, an addiction, a full night’s sleep, anything. Something has to give.
Everyone’s got the same 24 hour day.
If you want something, you’ll find a way.
If you don’t want it, you’ll find an excuse.
Just posted this for posterity, as a reminder.